My name is Casey. Marjolein asked me to write to everyone, hoping that I can help your struggles with weight loss. Not long ago, I was in a place where I felt helpless.
I feel embarrassed about my appearance. Everything I do is controlled by my weight. I feel bad about my body so I feel frustrated and feel isolated, helpless and desperate. All of this leads to eating more and moving less. I feel the negative impact of my weight every day, and it is becoming more and more common. Getting up in the morning is no longer an easy task.
Finally, a friend of mine gave me a gift. At the time, I was not excited about it. She gave me one of Marjolein’s Pilates videos. The first time I looked at it, I was literally sitting on the couch, using a bag of Oreo and a glass of milk! I kept watching and all I could think of was that I would never be like her.
A few more months later, I ejected the tape again. This time I actually tried to do what she was doing. I couldn’t even bend over to reach my toes. My belly is too big to do this. I put the tape back into the closet again. I continued to gain weight and felt like I was out of control. I am no longer the confident, confident woman I used to be. My life is becoming increasingly sheltered because people are worried that people will judge me by my appearance. I stopped playing with the kids. I no longer want to have sex with my husband. I don’t think anyone can love me like a fat woman. I love myself again…
Finally, one day, I decided that I had enough. I realized that I was sticking to my weight to protect myself from emotional pain. If I stay fat, I can always use my weight as an excuse, so I never have to deal with the truth. Only you can know your truth, and only you can change your feelings.
You need to support yourself. You need to encourage yourself. No one can do this for you! ! ! I am the mother of three beautiful young women. I lose weight with the same support and encouragement as my girl. If my daughter comes to me and says, “Mom, I feel helpless. I feel like I will never get to where I want it. I feel ugly and useless. I feel hopeless.” I will never say, “Oh, just deal with it.”
Absolutely not! Instead, I told her that she was worth fighting for. I told her how precious she is as a woman. I will encourage her to improve her self-esteem. Why do we discourage ourselves from using the same words? Help improve yourself by telling yourself how important you are and how important you have to make a living! ! Fight for this. You deserve it. You deserve it!
I’m losing nearly 50 pounds now. And I am moving towards a lifetime of physical health and being proud of who I am. I even started my own home business, which helped a lot in building my confidence. Getting up in the morning is no longer a burden. (Going to bed with my husband at night is no longer a burden.) I am proud to say that I can now reach my toes while working out on my Pilates machine and I no longer hang on the edge of the machine. I never thought of eating those I would be the Oreo people I am today.
Believe in yourself.
like,
Casey
