Are you playing on other people’s rules?

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Are you playing on other people’s rules?

Jeff Altman, Big Game Hunter

Over the years, a person’s role in most opposite-sex cultures has been simple. There is a division of labor, his job is to devote himself to his family, and to help others stay safe and become the head of the family even when his life is sacrificed. He should have been strong and tried to have sex with every woman he contacted. The rules are clear. Yes, there are many exceptions to this programming Message delivered to men.

I’ve spent a lot of time with men trying to figure out what it means to be a modern man in the past 25 years. As urban women’s voices become loud, there is a problem that shows the chaos in many people. “Boys have worse grades than girls. Suicide is the biggest killer for men under 35; men’s life satisfaction is also significantly lower than women. According to statistics compiled by the Men’s Health Forum, men account for 76% of all suicides, 95% of the prison population, and 73% of missing adults.” (Men after #MeToo: ‘There is a narrative that masculinity is fundamentally toxic”

So, what does it mean to be a person in the 21st century?

Robert Moore’s mythical model of “king, warrior, magician, lover” is replaced by a person who is in people without rules, they are struggling because there is no structure, no social meaning, and many men struggle in life without purpose. This makes many of them work and tasks, and makes them isolated and disconnected, solitary.

Society has given up on “good people”.

There is nothing interesting or attention given to people, they quietly work hard behind the scenes to do the necessary things. Instead, be aware of the train wreckage. As any parent knows, children seek attention in any way. In some family systems, attention comes from achievement. In other cases, it comes from many forms of “bad behavior.”

Another model that seems valuable is the Explorer, a person who starts building or creating new things. In the 19th century, they evolved into robber barons. Today, we have people created through technology and created ideas for railway and highway systems.

Most men do not desire to be a train difficult nor develop technology. So, how did he find meaning without familiar structures and frameworks? Complaints seem to be the most familiar and socially acceptable mechanism for most people at the moment.

What works? Classified answers with trusted consultants, coaches, mentors or guides. Although older men (and women) depreciate in our culture, an experienced person can help them solve their thoughts and ambitions and help them make progress.

We live in a life where men can follow other people’s rules or make their own choices.

This is the time to start reflecting. Now is the time to seek support, trusted consultants, allies, coaches that can help you move the needles in your life. After all, life is not a long time.

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